"It is hard," she said softly. "Though I think it presents different challenges for me than for you. Æn'Kae or Rren might have a closer perspective, if you wanted to ask them. But for me... I think it is kind of like the way some people manage to keep from getting ill on a spinning ride. They find a few key spots and make sure to see them on every pass. Only in this case, I'd say pick a few key people or places to check in with, and make sure every week you check in with each of them at least once. Calendars also help, if you can find a way to use them that suits your lifestyle. The trick is not to let them lure you into getting so tangled into planning your life that you forget to live it. Journals are also useful."
She sighed gently. "I suspect for you though a big part of your problem in tracking time that a number of the rest of us don't have is that your body doesn't give you the same sort of regular cues we get. Which is why Rren maybe a better choice to ask this of. But we... most of the rest of us that is... we get hungry. Multiple times a day, usually. We need sleep regularly and we feel the effects if we skimp on it or get too much of it. We need the bathroom, we start to smell if we don't shower or bathe. And we're often surrounded by people with these same needs and urges. So even those of us who are good at not noticing our own hunger or sleepiness see when others are eating or sleeping, or we get sent to bed or given food by those who notice we're not caring for ourselves properly. But all of these things keep us from getting as focused as we might otherwise like to. I might want to spend an entire day exercising, but if I don't take a break to eat in the middle I won't make it to the end. And even with that break... I'll feel it the next day. There is no way I'll be able to forget that day how hard I worked the day before."
She gave a small smile. "Being able to ignore all that and focus the way you can... it is neither good nor bad... or rather, it has aspects of both. There are things you can do that had I your powers and experience and knowledge I still could not. But at the same time, the cost of pulling off those wonders is a focus so intense you miss things around you. So since your body doesn't naturally give you those limits to force you to see more than just your own project, you have to find ways to give them to yourself."
"And you're making a good start of it here, it seems. Making breakfast for everyone regularly not only means that you are seeing most of us often, and having a chance to converse and learn how our days have been going, but also that it makes you mindfully aware of the time and of those around you. Continuing things like that will help. Using things like the sun and moon as indicators could also be useful, since I'm pretty sure your world has not yet discovered the alarm clock." She smiled a bit at that.
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Date: 2024-01-15 10:45 am (UTC)She sighed gently. "I suspect for you though a big part of your problem in tracking time that a number of the rest of us don't have is that your body doesn't give you the same sort of regular cues we get. Which is why Rren maybe a better choice to ask this of. But we... most of the rest of us that is... we get hungry. Multiple times a day, usually. We need sleep regularly and we feel the effects if we skimp on it or get too much of it. We need the bathroom, we start to smell if we don't shower or bathe. And we're often surrounded by people with these same needs and urges. So even those of us who are good at not noticing our own hunger or sleepiness see when others are eating or sleeping, or we get sent to bed or given food by those who notice we're not caring for ourselves properly. But all of these things keep us from getting as focused as we might otherwise like to. I might want to spend an entire day exercising, but if I don't take a break to eat in the middle I won't make it to the end. And even with that break... I'll feel it the next day. There is no way I'll be able to forget that day how hard I worked the day before."
She gave a small smile. "Being able to ignore all that and focus the way you can... it is neither good nor bad... or rather, it has aspects of both. There are things you can do that had I your powers and experience and knowledge I still could not. But at the same time, the cost of pulling off those wonders is a focus so intense you miss things around you. So since your body doesn't naturally give you those limits to force you to see more than just your own project, you have to find ways to give them to yourself."
"And you're making a good start of it here, it seems. Making breakfast for everyone regularly not only means that you are seeing most of us often, and having a chance to converse and learn how our days have been going, but also that it makes you mindfully aware of the time and of those around you. Continuing things like that will help. Using things like the sun and moon as indicators could also be useful, since I'm pretty sure your world has not yet discovered the alarm clock." She smiled a bit at that.